Boy… am I lucky I don’t have a brother. I won’t ever go through what this girl is going through (not that I would ever contemplate such an act if I did have a bro!).
Read this excerpt from an anonymous writer who engaged in consensual incest with her brother.
I have wondered if there will ever come a time when I’ll look back on my relationship with Daniel in disgust, but I don’t think so. Everyone has relationships where the sexual element has ended but a great friendship remains, and that’s as good a way as any of summing up what’s happened with us. Daniel has a unique place in my affections, as I do with him, and that will never change.
Like I said, I don’t have a brother so I don’t know the relationship of a brother and a sister. I don’t know how close they can get, I don’t know what kind of twisted chemistry can develop.
What’s more I am not particularly close to my sisters. We often fight and bicker over every small thing, and I can only puzzledly watch how other siblings can turn into best friends.
So, given the less than affectionate relationship I have with the members of my family, I can’t begin to understand how a brother and a sister can get thisclose.
They both consented, kept at it even when they had grown to be mature adults, even at one point wanting to live together as a (secret) couple. There was no abuse, no coercion.
So… is their relationship a bad thing?
I’m trying not to judge the two of them. But incest is just so taboo. I mean, the idea of two related people having a relationship may seem okay from an outside point of view, if they’re happy and they’re not hurting other people, and of course not creating a child.
But if you try to put yourself in their situation… like, think of yourself having a relationship with your sibling — it’s just… really, really horrible and disgusting to even imagine! (Try it and see if you don’t feel like puking.)
So, what are your thoughts on this piece? Why is incest so taboo? When did it first become a taboo and why wasn’t it a taboo in the olden days (the Bible, royal families, etc.)? Is there a place for it in modern times?
July 17th, 2008 at 3:53 pm
I have 3 sons and a daughter and i’d be horrified if something like that happened. It seems to me that there’s likely alot more to this story such as molestation and a much less than healthy family life. If nothing else they at least need counseling. I truly hope they do that much for their own mental health’s sake. Then if they determine there’s no underlying causes but true affection, then i guess it’s not for anyone else to judge.
July 17th, 2008 at 4:13 pm
We are not in the position to judge but in the eyes of God, even though it’s modern age God to me still exist..and in the eyes of people it’s wrong..wrong…wrong, but i am not there to judge them — just my thought.
July 17th, 2008 at 5:01 pm
I think the biggest reason it became taboo at some point would be because of children. Obviously sharing the same genes would make for some serious mutations in the family tree and they realized at one point or another the family wouldn’t be able to carry on.
I have a sister but never thought of her in that way too gross.
July 17th, 2008 at 8:18 pm
Yup… I just threw up in my mouth a little bit
July 17th, 2008 at 10:17 pm
Aaaghh! Can’t even contemplate it! There has to be something twisted in their brains for them to even think that it is okay.
July 18th, 2008 at 8:04 am
I think it runs in the family. Maybe you do know that the royal family marry each other, no matter how they may be closely related. Well, if you think about it, the first people had incestuous relationships to populate the earth.
July 18th, 2008 at 11:13 am
I think there’s a natural protection built in to people to stop this happening. I had a beautiful sister and daughters but never felt anything sexual towards them, none of my doing it was just like that (still is in regard to my daughters). Why some people push the boundaries I don’t know, but it happens.
July 19th, 2008 at 2:07 am
As far as I have read (and several people above have already mentioned that), – it is mostly a biological/evolutionary protection that has evolved through time that sibling do not involve in sexual relationships, because of the probability of mutations and other unfavorable effects on offsprings.
As a psychological thing, I have never experienced such an affection towards my brother (but he is also several years younger). I guess, in a family it is a difficult issue to deal with, because it is so unusual and not socially accepted. And we humans are often very rigid about what we accept (because that is what we know and we are used to) and what we don’t. But as an outsider, when I hear a story about two siblings loving each other (etc.), – well, I don’t judge them and I don’t feel any kind of disgust. It is rather rare to find a person you are mutually attracted with, – and it’s great happiness. But they are just unlucky that it turned to be their sibling.
It’s great that you start such a discussion. The more we hear about “unusual” things, talk about them – the more flexible we might become in our judgments!
Natalie
July 20th, 2008 at 11:20 am
Just a thought:
“Do the right thing, at the right time, at the right place and at to right person… – Is doing the will of God.”
Was it a right thing? Was it the right person? For me, it’s a NO.!
God gave us wisdom, He gave us the right to choose between good or evil. We need to be wise, be very wise..
July 21st, 2008 at 4:13 am
IMHO:
That’s the most disgusting thing to do in a world and era wherein computers and the internet are the sources of infos and the world is globally warming already!
July 21st, 2008 at 4:42 am
Its horrible … i cant even imagine that scene …. those 2 are sick people
July 24th, 2008 at 11:13 am
well, as long as their having fun,
there’s no harm done!