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Seems like ages since I last posted.

Posted on 08 June 2016 by Flisha

Things are just so hectic lately. But a good hectic.

There’s a lot of things to do at work. Like rebuilding my team. Learning about new technologies. Documenting knowledge. Improving our processes. Running our day to day operations. Managing people. Don’t get me wrong. I love it. I love that I get to contribute a lot. I love that my work is valuable to the team and the company. I love that what I do directly impacts people. I love that my opinion matters. It’s fulfilling. :)

Apart from work, I’ve also been busy in my personal life. Getting married and all that. :) Hehehe. So, by the way, I got married! I am now a married woman. I’m wearing rings! Hahaha. Funnily, nothing much has changed apart from my status. It’s what I’ve been saying all along. Gim and I were all but married save for the paperwork!

But that’s for another post. This is just to say… I will be posting again! Hahaha. Soon. I hope.

Until then!



One Afternoon in Harbor Square

Posted on 20 January 2015 by Flisha

I forgot to mention one other thing I love about my new phone’s camera. It smoothens out my skin tone automatically!! Hahah!!

I do not really look as young as I do in the photos below. My skin is not really that blemish free. But my phone manages to convince me otherwise!

Selfie pa more!!! LOL.




Selfies aside, this was really a beautiful day in Harbor Square. It was overcast and December, we sipped Starbucks while enjoying the view, wondering who owned these yatchs… and wishing we owned one too. Someday surely!!




Happy New Year!

Posted on 20 January 2015 by Flisha

Over the holidays I got myself a Samsung Note 4. And WOW. Best phone ever!

What can I say? It was an impulse buy. Totally out of nowhere. First week of December, I just got my 13th month bonus, it was midnight madness at the mall, there was a buy-now-pay-later scheme going on and I was browsing the latest phones at Abenson. I saw this gorgeous looking phone. Large sized for a phone. I thought, hey I could totally play games on it! Hahah. Then I thought, I can finally use Google Maps when I travel (because, GPS). And the display was really bright and clear!

So I got it. Gave my credit card and left the store 15 minutes later with a brand new phone that I really didn’t need because I still have my trusty Blackberry Bold. God help me and my impulse buying!

Anyway, cut to now. I can hardly go anywhere without that phone. I love it so much! Haha!

I use it to play my games primarily. I play Simpsons Tapped Out, Hay Day, Family Guy, Clash of Clans and Dragonvale. I’ve gotten to be such an addict, I am so ashamed!! I have spent so much on Tapped Out for the premium items. LOL. Again with the spending, missy!!!

Apart from it I love all these travel and leisure apps. I have so many but my favorite are Google Maps (of course!), GrabTaxi, Zomato, Trip Advisor, Foursquare and Spotify, to name a few. And the social media apps! I finally have an Instagram account. Haha!

But best thing about my phone is the camera! I haven’t really blogged much in so long since I don’t like lugging around my heavy camera everywhere I go. So whenever I go to restaurants or on trips or reunions, I don’t have any pictures. What a thing for me to discover that this phone has the best camera I have ever used! It takes night photos like a pro and so fast too. You just literally point and shoot and it’s captured the moon. No waiting and holding your breath or anything like that. Good heavens. Love it. Love living in our technological era!

Here are some random photos I’ve taken the past month. Maybe the best thing that came out of getting this phone is that I may be blogging a bit more than these last few years. Fingers crossed! :-)


Some yachts in Harbor Square on a late afternoon



Gorgeous window displays at Rustan’s



Finally got to visit Makati’s newest mall – Century Mall! I liked the dancing lights very much.



See? My phone takes night shots really well! I only had to focus and shoot this, though I did have many takes since some were blurry (shaky hands). Lovely shot of the moon that my old DSLR could not take in the same circumstances (without tripod/long exposure).



Another night shot. This time in HDR. Can you believe my phone can capture in HDR automatically? Haha! It still amazes me. This is my view every night from my apartment. :-)



Bonus shot! Just me and Snowy saying hello everyone and Happy 2015!! :)



Uncontrollable Tears of Joy

Posted on 09 August 2014 by Flisha

They say women cry when they’re sad, cry when they’re happy, and sometimes cry for no reason at all.

Have you heard of crying while laughing? I bet you’ve done it once or twice, or if you’re easily amused, many times in your life. 

Me too!

Except I don’t simply shed a tear or two. I shed buckets.

This is me laughing:

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA HAAAAAA aaa aaa uuhhh HU HU HU HU HU HUUUUUUHHHHHHH (gulping down huge breaths and bawling like a baby).

Crying Uncontrollably

I don’t know exactly why it happens to me.

But the first time it happened, it was because my boyfriend was tickling me. I was giggling uncontrollably, but I was NOT liking it. In fact I was begging him to stop but he wouldn’t. And so, my uncontrollable giggling turned into uncontrollable sobbing, heaving shoulders and all, my palms pressed over my tearstained face. Gim just stopped and looked at me, puzzled. He thought I was faking it at first but then he realized it was for real. 

It was a little embarrassing for him, too, because we were in my room and my mom and sisters were just outside. The walls are thin in our house.

So he hushed me and stroked my arms and hugged me as I bawled on his shoulders, and we stayed like that for a few minutes, until I gradually stopped hyperventilating and my sobs became quieter and I finally stopped crying.

Ever since then, if I laugh too much – especially the out of control type of laughter – it very easily turns into a bawl. 

Example: When Gim cracks his cheesy jokes and then I’m laughing at him instead of the joke! 

The weird part is that when I’m laughing, I really am simply amused. (Gim no longer tickles me, he’s learned since not to!) But when it turns into crying, it is very emotional for me. I cry the same way I cried the moment the doctors pronounced my father dead, in the hospital. 

How do I describe it? It’s like the physical act of laughing triggers all this emotion in me. All this emotion overwhelms me and I can’t help it and it’s released through the bawling.

I feel pretty embarrassed after I cry. But it’s very cathartic. Literally I just release all the pent-up emotion inside me. And that feels GOOD.

It still happens to me, randomly. Gim can induce it if he wants, by doing something to make laugh really hard. But he doesn’t, because he worries about me. I don’t know if it means anything significant, medically. Once in the middle of a fit he got me a paper bag to breathe into. I don’t know if it helped. I still cried buckets.

It still happens randomly. Like this morning. I tried to suppress the tears. Though they came, but I didn’t release them all and I tried my best to tamp down the heaving. Because Gim was late to work and I didn’t want to keep him. I felt a little cheated, after. I didn’t get my feel-good release. :-(

So, there. It just boggles me why it happens. 

Has this ever happened to you???



Lovely Gim

Posted on 26 February 2014 by Flisha

I love this photo of Gim. He looks so relaxed and cute. :)


Nail Art!

Posted on 22 November 2013 by Flisha

Just trying on some nail art in time for the holidays! :)


Wearing Earrings I Made Myself

Posted on 15 November 2013 by Flisha

I love accessories! Especially earrings, because all my youth my ears were never pierced. Tried twice, failed twice. For some reason, my piercings always got infected so they had to be closed. Third time was the charm, in my adulthood. Hence I cannot get enough of earrings! :)

A couple of weeks ago I thought of making my own. So after buying a few starter materials, here is my first creation! Hehehe! Did this in 5 minutes.

More to come!!!


More photos:





The Real Me

Posted on 23 September 2013 by Flisha

I am on a mission to lose weight. Whether by good old fashioned exercise or a healthy diet!

Today I am past the 200 lb mark, can you believe??? I think it’s the heaviest I have been in my life. It’s too bad because I already attained a slim body once. But that was a long time ago. Back in college, when I was active in multiple school clubs and organizations, and we had a physical education class twice a week, and I was doing weights and cardio. I was 18 and on the hunt for a boyfriend. So I got thin to get noticed. I did get noticed by the boys, but not only that. I got compliments from grade school teachers who mentioned they barely recognized me but that I changed for the good. My college teacher nicknamed me “Pretty Girl”. I got to be featured in a poster advertisement for our school. I easily got licenses and government IDs because the staff would treat me like a VIP (i.e. they let me cut the line hehe!). I was offered to model nude (no, I did not take the artist up on his offer!). My grade school crush (the very first) finally said hello to me and we even had a long conversation in a chatroom (I still feel giddy when I remember it!). I got along well with people and had the best of friends. And of course, I eventually fell in love with the most wonderful person in the world. They say high school is the best time of your life. But for me, it was really college.

I started putting on the weight a few years after graduation. I was working a desk job. My boyfriend had a motorcycle so he would ferry me wherever I wanted. I did less and less of walking, more and more of sitting.

Until today when no one in his right mind (save for my boyfriend) would ask me to pose nude. Haha!

I am pretty happy with my life now. I have a well paying and stable job. I still have my loyal and faithful boyfriend (thank God). I have lovely pets (my poodle, my hamster, my fishes). Some of my closest friends are spread over the globe and some are back home; though it gets lonely in my new home, I am grateful for my old pals.

Still, I feel lacking. I feel that the me that people know now is vastly different from the old me, the real me. Today I am reserved and an introvert, whereas before I was carefree and confident. I think it all boils down to how I feel ugly, and big, and fat – all these negative feelings I have about myself, I project onto people, and how can I expect people to like me if I do not even like myself. It is very superficial. I know it is very vain of me. However it is the truth. I do love who I am. I know I am pretty. But I cannot control how I feel. And I feel I can be better, and it disappoints me that I have not striven to be the best that I can be.

If a body needs nutrients, then so does the soul. My weight isn’t just weighing my body down, it’s also weighing down my soul. And my soul needs to receive the proper amounts of confidence, happiness and joy – things that I feel I will achieve better if I can shed the excess weight off.

Which brings me back to my mission. I intend to lose weight. 100 pounds in one year. I think it is doable. My boyfriend who is a doctor thinks it is doable. I have enrolled in a gym and I have been going thrice a week. I am going to learn more about proper nutrition and change my diet to suit my daily needs. I am truly trying. And eventually I hope I can bring back the real me. :)


Midnight Fun

Posted on 18 January 2013 by Flisha

Owww my heel hurts from walking in my Skechers Shape-Ups. Gotta find some comfy orthaheel here to ease up on my soles.

Gim and I had an interesting night. He came home early (6pm instead of the usual 9 or 10pm) and since he was feeling tired and groggy from the flu, I fed him some Tocino (something like sweet ham) and then let him get some bed rest. Five hours later, he woke up hungry but well rested. I let him eat the Mcdonalds burger I had ordered while he was sleeping.

After that, he was itching to go out and watch a movie. Confession here: I am not a movie buff. In fact, I pretty much hate to sit in a theater for two hours (or worse!) watching a movie. Not that movies aren’t entertaining for me. I just don’t like having to sit there and have nothing else to do but look at the screen for such a length of time. I have a short attention span. I like getting distracted in the middle of things and shifting from one thing to the next. Blame it on the Internet?

Anyway, so I suggested why not just have a walk around? Better yet, jog! We live in Makati, there are lots of parks around. Plus, the weather is really wonderful these days. It’s cool and perfect for outdoor activities. :) This was 11 pm and he agreed! Hahah!

So we went out and found an empty parking lot nearby and did some stretching, some kicking, some running, and a lot of walking. It was lots of fun and now we’re thinking rollerblading, bicycling, rope skipping! Hope the weather holds. Summer, don’t you come too soon! :)

legazpi park




Posted on 11 January 2013 by Flisha

Have you ever been placed in a socially awkward situation where you didn’t know what to do? Met this Chinese-Malaysian fellow and his wife the day we set foot in Kota Kinabalu and they were exceedingly nice and accommodating, to the point that it was irritating and overbearing. Never met people like that before.


Here’s how it began. Upon arrival at the hotel, I found we had no wifi access in the basement. So I upgraded from a “standard” to a “superior” room, explicitly stating my need for wifi access at the hotel reception. Receptionist sends this guy to help me. IT Guy says I need to test out my laptop first with their wifi because not all laptops are compatible with the wifi (especially Windows 7 OS and Intel router – which, um, I have). So I take out my laptop and we proceed to the 6th floor and sit right outside the Palace ballroom and I successfully connect. Then IT Guy now says I need to go my 5th floor room and test again, weird. But anyway I do and again, successful. IT Guy explains, it’s because he has to make sure my laptop first recognizes the wifi at the 6th floor because if I am on the 5th, it might not work. I was a bit miffed at all the “testing” I had to do just to get some wifi (why don’t they just make LAN ports available in the rooms if wifi is so troublesome then???). But still, after all his work, very grateful to finally be able to get online, I profusely thanked IT Guy.

During this time of “testing”, IT Guy was very chatty with me and my boyfriend. He mentioned how his wife is Filipina, and how he and his wife often went to the Philippines, lots of small talk. Asked us where we were planning to go, what we were going to do, etc. He suggested restaurants to eat at, activities he recommended. We engaged, as of course it was very nice and welcoming of him. At one point, he asked us to change our itinerary, because he was free during the weekend and would love to do some of the activities with us (so weird for a hotel staff to act like that!). Sometime at the end, IT Guy mentioned that he knew we were arriving, because he would always ask the hotel staff to inform him of any Filipino guests in advance (creepy territory, but again I let it slide). Then IT Guy gave us his calling card and informed us that he got off at 6 and wanted to show us around the city and have dinner with us at the seafood restaurant he recommended.

Me and Gim, we’re very polite, so we didn’t make any commitments but neither did we issue any rejections. We were very noncommittal, because though we did want to go around, we preferred to explore on our own. Especially me, I’m not as social as Gim and I have little patience interacting with people I’m not comfortable with, let alone new acquaintances. So that was that, I thought.

Come a bit past 6 pm, Gim and I decided to go out. We purposely left later because we knew the guy got off at 6pm, and we didn’t want to chance that he’d be there and offer us again a tour or dinner. We walked to Centerpoint (an old mall near the hotel) and towards the seafood place he earlier recommended. Big mistake. Right before crossing towards the restaurant, we saw him there in the parking lot, seemingly looking for us. When he saw us, he gave a big great wave and jogged – almost ran!! – towards us! Then he told us he had asked the doorman if we took the shuttle and was told no, but that we had left the hotel already. So he had taken his car to look for us but couldn’t find us on the road (we had taken the foot path). So he had gone around (in his car) and decided to wait near the restaurant in case we went there. MAJORLY STALKERISH!!! At this point, he was just IT Guy from the hotel – what the heck kind of behavior was this?? I had no idea how to react.

Since he was there and he seemed so very eager to take us around, we just went along, though we dropped lots of hints like saying “I hope we’re not imposing too much!” or “No, no, you don’t have to, really!” or “We’re OK, really!” but it seemed like IT Guy could NOT get a single hint. He asked us where we were going and Gim said to find a money exchanger. IT Guy then said he knows a place where the rate is better but it’s a bit far so why don’t we take a ride in his car? We really tried to back off but he wouldn’t take no for an answer. So we hopped on the back of his car and he dropped us off at the money exchanger. And since he couldn’t park on the street, he said he would just circle around the block while waiting for us to do the transaction. (Side note: it wasn’t that far but it seems a 5 minute walk is already far for the average Kota Kinabalu resident. It’s a small town, so I understand, but I really hate the feeling of being obligated for something I didn’t need.)

After the money exchange, he drove us back to the seafood place and recommended the good items to order, like lobster. He mentioned many times how much he loved lobster. During this time his wife called him on the phone. After, he said she was at home. We didn’t issue an invite for dinner, though it seemed he wanted us to. Then he said his wife was looking for him already and he needed to go back. Relieved we were going to be left alone for dinner, we bid goodbye and then Gim said – and BIG MISTAKE – “You don’t want to join us for dinner? No? OK then have a good one!” We were just being polite!!! You know Filipinos, we try to be so hospitable, sometimes we say things we don’t really mean. He left us, but 30 minutes later and in the middle of our wonderful dinner, the guy returned and now with his wife!! And proceeded to join us for dinner!!! What??? Ugh.

We had a LONG LONG dinner of small talk. After maybe 2 hours (it felt like 4), we were finally done. Bill came and it was freakingly expensive!!! We knew it was going to be, after ordering clams and lobsters and tiger prawns, but it was even more expensive due to the additional order of our newfound “friends”. They gave a portion of money to cover their order (but not enough!!). But it wasn’t the bill I was regretful about, it was having a lovely dinner and not being able savor it or enjoy it that much because we were with strangers. :(

At one strange point in the meal, IT Guy’s wife tried to make me take her cellphone. IT Guy mentioned he tried to call my boyfriend many times but could not connect. So we just shrugged it off and said, probably a network issue. So then IT Guy’s wife offered her cellphone, saying we should take it so we could communicate with them easily and inexpensively. We declined (inwardly because we did not want any obligations to them!!) saying that we were OK, we had our phones, we could connect to the Malaysian network and all. IT Guy then demonstrated how he could not connect to my boyfriend’s phone and insisted we take their phone. So I then had to whip out my phone to demonstrate I *could* connect and I took his number and made a call, and his phone rang. Ugh, finally! I thought it was over. Then IT Guy’s wife STILL insisted we take their phone, saying that I would rack up such high charges, that it was better if I just use their local phone. I had to spit out that it was fine, I had my company’s phone, if I had to make a call I would not be charged for it. Ugh. That settled the issue. So frustrating to have to decline so many times!

After the dinner, Gim and I mentioned we wanted to go around the mall and look around. That was our exit strategy. But it was 10 pm already, so IT Guy informed us the mall was already closed. They insisted to bring us around the city, and so as not to be rude we let them. For about 30 minutes, they pointed out to us the different areas of interest. We visited Seri Selera (a more famous seafood place that they mentioned was very expensive). Then they wanted to bring us to a fruit stand where we bought some mangosteen and shakes. Then finally they dropped us back to the hotel and we bid (again) our goodbyes. But not with a parting from them of “So, see you again tomorrow for dinner, OK?!”

Needless to say, we made sure the following day to say NO. And spent the next few days at the hotel awkwardly trying not to run in to IT Guy as much as possible (which was hard, since he was often working at the reception desk!). And when we did, we had to ensure to just say NO clearly (but still nicely).

On the very last day, our last “No” to him was to spend New Year’s Eve with him and his wife. What?!

Whew. I think that was the most tiring part of our trip – having to spend time with people we didn’t want to spend time with!

So! Were we just mean / socially inept or was IT Guy very unprofessional?



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